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Georgia Holliday's avatar

Nadia, this has put words to the rage swirling inside me. Thank you.

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Nadia Meli's avatar

I am so glad it gave you words ❤️

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Elly's avatar

Powerful, raw, honest, thank you.

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Nadia Meli's avatar

Thank you Elly ❤️

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Zehra's avatar

Thank you for this. You put it into the words that most of us can’t find right now

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Nadia Meli's avatar

Trying 🥹 It's honestly hard to word the insanity I feel right now. The being split in two.

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John Granholm's avatar

I agree so strongly - and I love this so much. Thank you, Nadia.

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Nadia Meli's avatar

Thank you for reading 🙏🏼

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Lau V's avatar

You’re not alone in this 💗 te envío un enorme abrazo.

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Nadia Meli's avatar

Right back to you! Thank you 🙏🏼

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Nova Reid's avatar

Maddening inducing. Dr Angela Davis shared that “hope is a discipline” that’s what I’m practicing right now

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Nadia Meli's avatar

I am trying to have hope...but honestly, I don't have much. All I do is because I have love, love for people and this planet ... not so much hope. But maybe hope is seasonal. Maybe I can get it back by practicing. Thank you Nova ❤️

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Nova Reid's avatar

I hear you. Hope is hard to hold onto. I also feel that loving and hope are linked. Without love can you even have hope? Is continuing to love amongst all of this persisting loveless, hope? I think so. Thanks for pondering with me

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Nadia Meli's avatar

I ask myself this a lot. And you're right, they are linked, they must be at least cousins :) Thank you Nova ❤️

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Nova Reid's avatar

I think so. There’s a little hope right there ❤️

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John Granholm's avatar

I find myself thinking very often of F. Scott Fitzgerald's famous quote, nominally about intelligence but really centring on hope:

“The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function. One should, for example, be able to see that things are hopeless and yet be determined to make them otherwise.” (“The Crack Up,” 1936)

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ella sylvie's avatar

incredibly powerful. thank you, thank you, thank you

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Nadia Meli's avatar

I am so glad it resonates with your heart!

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aisha ✰'s avatar

This resonated so very deeply. Your writing is powerful. Thank you very much for sharing this piece.

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Nadia Meli's avatar

Thank you for being here Aisha ❤️

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Barbs Honeycutt's avatar

"Your ugliness is the worlds ugliness. Everything is connected." woah this article was powerful. I am always a fan of how you write, and how you share your personal story with such integrity.

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Nadia Meli's avatar

Thank you for being here and sharing this space with me. Your support is a big deal Barbs ❤️

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Jo's avatar

Yes ! 👏

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Nadia Meli's avatar

Thank you 🙏🏼

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Lauren's avatar

I could have written this myself. Thanks for capturing this so well.

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Nadia Meli's avatar

Thank you for letting me know it resonates with you ❤️

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Katha's avatar

Thank you for your raw and honest words. It definitely resonates with me.

I realize that I have become a bit numb at the overwhelming bad news out there. The darker the world becomes, the quieter I become. Saying the same over and over doesn't help, but silence doesn't either. So maybe screaming is a good way to voice the rage and pain at times.

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Elisabeth Aberlin's avatar

Thank you for sharing your heart with us and not carrying this alone— you belong here and we are so grateful you are here.

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Nadia Meli's avatar

Thank you for naming that. It means so much ❤️ You belong here too ❤️

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Ernie L Vecchio's avatar

You're not mad—you're awake in a world that often rewards sleep. What you're feeling is not dysfunction, but the cost of coherence in a fractured reality. In my work, we call this spiritual gravity—the pull you feel when the soul sees clearly, but the ego can’t yet make sense of what’s seen. It’s okay to not be okay. This is not a pathology—it’s the ache of becoming whole in a world still split. You are not alone in this rupture. Keep listening to the signal. Keep letting it move you. Even trembling truth is more alive than polished denial.

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Nadia Meli's avatar

Your words were like a balm to my soul. Thank you so much!

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Violet Farraday's avatar

Thank you for putting words to this. I feel like trying to "hold both" for so long has caused me to just shut down and numb out, and now that I'm pulling out ot it and realizing that I cannot keep going like this, I feel actually insane. I needed to read this 💜

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Nadia Meli's avatar

Exactly this!!! I think being "regulated" oftentimes is just another form of being disassociated.

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